I never expected to be delving into the incredibly deep and complex world of autism and neurodiversity when I suddenly landed in a wheelchair in early 2012 at 45 years old.
I had remained blissfully ignorant of most of its complexity, thinking of it only as something else others had to deal with since I had no children.
That said, I always struggled to fit in, and battled many of the common comorbidities along the way, as I tried to pass as a “neurotypical” female. In fact, I’m now convinced this lent to my onset “cascade” of 2012 from so much accumulated stress of trying to pass, and not pass out (heh).
Well, fast forward a mere 12 months and as a newly minted EDS support group leader in Oregon, when no less than 3 people asked me if I “had Asperger’s”!* Uhm, well, no, not officially, but it left me wondering, so I took a deep dive, and have since come to realize that it appears to be highly comorbid with connective tissue disorders involving hypermobility, and also Mast Cell Activation Diseases. (Hold your terminology checking horses folks, and read on.)
Why, we don’t yet fully know. *Yes, I’m keenly aware the formal diagnosis of Asperger’s was taken away by the DSM-V in 2013, but some in the community still refer to it,although this seems to be falling out of favor in 2018. But some prefer and still refer to this identity, and have even built businesses around it, so… it will probably never fully disappear, or not for a long while. I will try to use “autistic” going forward myself when not recounting history.
So I considered (past tense) myself a likely “Hidden Aspie” (back in 2012) or “autistic cousin” after that, but realize this is not an official diagnosis, and some will take issue with that. I will stick to my conclusion however, as the historic description of Asperger’s resonated extremely deeply with me, and I’m also aware of my entire family history, and you are not. At a minimum I would call myself “neurodivergent” now. I’m also getting NO support thank you very much, so trust me, I’m not taking anything away from anybody.
>>> We interrupt this preface to bring you the recent news (2021) that I have since indeed been diagnosed as autistic with traits of ADHD also finally, at 54 by my HMO as of June 2021. Go me. So I will start calling myself properly autistic now. <<<
Further, I found it extremely commonly comorbid in the EDS & MCAD support groups I landed in, both on and off line, and continue to the longer I observe the groups. (Along with ADHD by the way.) One on Inspire has over 30,000 members in it alone, another on Facebook has 20,000, so a decent sample size even subtracting for some over-lap. Everyone seemed to be either autistic, living with, or related to someone who was, or had ADHD, or showed subclinical signs of it as I had until now.
I did not give this too much weight until Dr. Theoharides began to correlate MCAD and autism as well as I learned in 2015. So either we’re onto something, and whatever drives hypermobility and MCAD also likely drives neuroplasticity and neurodivergent development, or we’ve got one heck of a coincidence on our hands. I’ve since added it to what I’m calling the “Chronic Constellation” for lack of a better term.
Interestingly, the most common form of EDS, the hypermobile type still has no single gene identified as the cause yet, much like the great majority of so-called “high-functioning” (essentially highly verbal, or better masked) autism doesn’t either.
I find this latter often alternatively or perhaps under-diagnosed as any combination of the “Subclinical Alphabet Soup” I find of: ADD/ADHD, SPD, OCD, BPD, NPD, depression and anxiety among other things. (We may have all those things too, but still be missing the target.)
However, I will focus on those resources relating to neurodiversity and neurotype here more than personality and mood disorders. I’ve created a separate page of Mental Health Resources for the latter, though again, they are all very highly comorbid for as yet unknown reasons. (I’m starting to suspect all the underlying inflammation from unrecognized comorbid MCAD and neuroinflammation from leaky brains and guts, along with being secondary to poor treatment, trauma and abuse but that just my hunch.)
I feel strongly we’re all circling the same drain – or hill if you prefer, and will some day find we’ve all got bits of the same very large animal in our hands, but like the six blind men and the elephant, we just don’t know it yet. (Ready to sing “kumbayah” yet anyone?)
Please note the list below does not constitute endorsement of any particular view or treatment, nor am I espousing a “cure” for autism now, only support. As I’m so new to this world, I’ve been sort of receiving a crash course and having to madly catch up with the latest in autistic thinking (from actual autistics, vs their parents/carers), and have found a very confusing array of sources and views to sort through, all purported “experts”, autistic and otherwise.
I admit to following the better known names and louder voices at the start and thus getting a view biased toward curing and compliance accordingly.
Thankfully Twitter is introducing me to many minority voices who also deserve to be heard, and I’m appreciating learning from. (And slowly adding below.) Including, but not limited to (in no particular order, and very incomplete):
@lilririah, @joychaos @teona, @bibicosplay
@autistictic, @autsciperson, @ebthen
@commaficianado, @slooterman, @NeuroRebel
Dogs don’t bark for no reason – we don’t stim/cry/melt down/bang/sing/go mute or want to spend time alone or with stuffies etc. for no reason either. I’m increasingly convinced in 2021 that a stance of following and observing more than pounding into compliance for all people results in better outcomes for all, including exhausted parents.
Thank you to all my patient teachers “out there”, and your continued patience as I continue to navigate these deep waters and come to a fuller understanding.
I’m also slowly learning to boost actually autistic voices (including my own) and have sorted the links below into those by and from actually autistic people of all stripes and identities, and “the rest”. But not including the loudest, most toxic voices I don’t need to mention as everyone will hear of them if they haven’t yet. (They are the top result on Google so do not need any boosting.) Please apprise me of any broken links too thanks.
Google doc of resources to #StopTheShock of disabled people (the use of high powered tasers to shock “non-compliant” autistics and others) in 2021 still. (THIS IS LITERAL TORTURE OF HELPLESS INDIVIDUALS AND HAS NO PLACE IN AUTISTIC SUPPORT OR ANYWHERE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER. ALL SUBJECTS ARE TRAUMATIZED BY IT.)
And check out the hashtags #RedInstead and #NOTmssng and #ActuallyAutistic on Twitter for more autistic views on “awareness”. (Those not on Twitter can also just google those terms and see the results that way too.) Yes, SOME autistics are quite ableist, and side with Autism Parents (TM) in the notion that it is a pathology to be prevented and or cured. So just know autistics are not a monolith, just as no group is a monolith (all think exactly alike). Yes, this requires discernment, but so does pretty much everything in life. But the above should give you a good leg up at least.
I decided to add this subsection now in June 2019 as there is an increasing body of work around why girls and women (and probably some non-binary folks and transmen and transwomen too) are so often not diagnosed with autism. The medical and wider world are just beginning to recognize this disparity resulting from only studying a certain level and flavor of autism in white boys back in the 1900s in Germany.
I expect to see increasing amounts of information on this come out. This will include a mix from NTs and autistics, not separated.
General Information and Support from Mostly NTs for other NTs
This older section is more biased toward parents and neurotypicals, and their views of and about autism and autistics, which the latter may find triggering, since they are not usually consulted or centered. I confess it may reflect my still evolving formerly more ableist POV of autism as a pathology, as that’s how I was raised, and which I am still shedding. (Thanks for your patience!) Please take all you read with a grain of salt and keep an open mind. I am slowly deleting some of the most ableist sites and links. (I just deleted a few more 10/20/21.) I will probably ultimately delete this section and just leave the ones above here at some point.
Ollibean – site for disability rights, inclusion and neurodiversity
Google will net you many many more resources on autism and related/comorbid disorders (ADD, ADHD, OCD, depression, anxiety). Please try to be discriminating and use discernment to see if they contain an autistic or neurodivergent point of view (POV) whenever possible before embracing or adopting. (Look for material BY autistics, not ABOUT them.) This will help prevent sustaining outdated and harmful stereotypes and tropes as we progress, thank you.
Other related resources for our many comorbidities: